Friday, May 23, 2014

What to do with Young Kids this Summer

Preschool is out for the summer, you have babies/toddlers/little kids and a menacing, empty calendar  stretched out before you.  What on earth will you do with the little ones all summer?  I've been there.  Actually, I'm still there.  But I know that everyone is happier in my family when we have some activities, adventures, or get-togethers planned.

*I promise that nothing totally exhausting, expensive, or overly complicated will ever be featured on a Frantic Mama list.  (For example, yes, children's museums are grand; they are also expensive, often far away, and exhausting for the parent.  Ditto for the zoo.  And yes, parks are wonderful, but they are often a whole lot of work for a tired mother).

I have compiled a list of ideas for stay-at-home parents to try this summer [to prevent us from going completely insane].  This list is geared towards the under 5 set.  None are particularly ground-breaking, but they are ideas that I actually do and that you can too!  Please Comment with your own ideas too.

1.  Check out the summer programs at your local community center.  In Minnesota, there are lots of community centers in various neighborhoods, and many offer low-priced camps, activities, classes.  They are usually for ages 3 and up, but sometimes you can find ones of the younger kids that require parent-participation (though such classes are much realistic if you only have one child).

2.  The YMCA offers some sports, like soccer and t-ball, for ages 3-5.  They aren't very expensive, and if you are lucky, there's one close to your house.  You do not have to be members to sign up for a sport or class.  My son has had a terrific time with the soccer program there, with just a few other kids in the class.  it isn't competitive, overwhelming, or exhausting.  (Well, I have to spend the entire time chasing my 1 year old around the YMCA while my son plays soccer, but both kids enjoy going there once a week, so I suck it up and off we go!).

3.  Music Classes.  Yes, this one can get a little pricier, depending on the class you sign up for.  Music Together is a national program, but there might be smaller ones in your area, like there are in mine (McPhail in Minneapolis, for example).  Sometimes you can find one at a local church.  My friends and I found a music therapist last summer who does 30 minute classes; she came to our homes every other Friday for a short little music class.  It wasn't super cheap, but it was a really fun way to spend a Friday morning with friends without having to chase the kids around the park in a sweat all morning.

4.  Library.  I am a fan of taking the kids to a local (free!) library and letting them loose in the children's area.  Needless to say, it is much easier to keep track of your kids if you only have one, but still worth the effort if you have a growing brood.

Them:  "MAMAAAAA!"
You:  "What?!"
Them: "Entertain us."

Now for a few simple ideas you can do in the ease of your own home and yard:

4.  Sidewalk Chalk.  If you haven't stocked up on chalk yet, then you must.

5.  Sprinkler fun.  My kids like to run around in the sprinklers in our yard, old-school style.

6.  Walks.  I invested in a double stroller when I had my daughter, and it gets used a lot in the summer.  I find it is a way for me to get exercise, keep the kids confined for 15-20 minutes, and get some fresh air.

7.  Break out the Baby pool.  These are cheap at Target and both of my kids like them.  My son (almost 4) puts cars in it, and my 1.5 year old likes to splash around in it.  This is messier, but maybe worth it at the end of the day when you feel guilty about all the Dora your kids watched that day.

8.  Sandbox.  Again, a messier activity, but something where the kids might stay in one spot while you get to pull up a chair for 5-10 minutes and watch them dump sand on each other's heads.

That's about it for now.  Anyone have any other ideas that fall into the not-very-expensive or overly-tiring category of children's activities?

~Frantic Mama

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Monday, May 19, 2014

Elastic Waistband or Jeans?

Here's something that's been on my mind recently:  how I feel about my appearance on a day-to-day basis.

I have come to the conclusion that it is just plain hard to feel attractive when taking care of little ones all day.

[Side Note:  Looks don't contribute to happiness.  I actually think there have been studies on that (can you imagine?), and we all hopefully acknowledge that looks aren't the most important thing about a person.]

All that said, it does feel nice to feel good about you appearance, doesn't it?  Achieving that feeling is easier said than done when you are waking up early, changing diapers, running around a muddy yard, etc. all day.

As an active mom of a 3.5 year old and a 1.5 year old, I tend to gravitate towards the same few casual shirts paired with the same black yoga pants or leggings every day.  Seriously.  Every day.

I see other women wearing jeans while caring for their young kids, and I think 'why?'  I can think of almost nothing more uncomfortable than sitting cross-legged on the floor, playing with Matchbox cars or My Little Ponies, while in a pair of skinny jeans.

Yoga Pants (no, I don't do yoga):  But why wear anything else?

I do dress up for an occasional evening out with my husband, and yes, I even wear jeans for such nights.  Better yet, I like to spring for a dress when we are going out.  It may surprise you that I love clothes.  I even like shopping.

On a daily basis, however, I try to find the balance between comfort and practicality, while maintaining some semblance of being well-groomed.  I like to shower [early]  in the morning before the kids are up, and I usually put on a bit of make-up.  More than clothes for me, shower + make-up = feeling decent about my appearance.  Right or wrong, when I take the few extra minutes to add a pair of earrings or some lipstick to my equation, I feel better throughout the day.

I'm curious, what do my other stay-at-home moms wear on a typical day?  Do you feel better when you pull on some jeans?  Or is your go-to outfit similar to mine?  Do you wear make-up?  Why or why not?

~Julia @ Frantic Mama

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Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Frantic Mama's Fun Photos

I have really started to get into Instagram (the app where you can filter and share photos), and I thought a few of you might think it was fun to see some of the photos I've recently taken.  Don't worry, they're not all of my kids eating, playing, sleeping, etc. [in the words of Jerry Seinfield, not that there's anything wrong with's just not what I share on the site].

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Here are a few of my favorites:

The pretty yellow bike my husband gave me for Christmas.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

A Letter to My Son on his 4th Birthday

My son (the older of my two children) turns four soon.  Four sounds like a Real Kid to me.  Four is no longer a toddler, and it is certainly not a baby.  Four means one last year of preschool, the last year where he will be with me most of the day (for better or worse).  Four means-- obviously-- that it has been FOUR years since I gave birth to him.

Similar to my letter to him on his 3rd birthday, I can't say the last 4 years have flown by.  I am not going to lie:  Some days in the past year were endless-- days when the hours were consumed with stomach bugs, playing with cars, being snowed in, numerous time-outs, and the bizarre world of potty training.  Others (though fewer) were full of fun and happiness.

It is those days (or even just those hours or minutes) that I am able to actively remember how lucky I am to be his mom, and that I get to spend so much time with him.

My son (age 2.5) and his Best Buddy/Dad 

Here is my letter I hope to share with my son when he is older.

Dear Sweetiepie--

You are now four!  I love you beyond words, especially when you are happy and smiling, or running up to give me a tight hug first thing in the morning at the crack of freakin' dawn.  Because I've always called you "sweetie," recently you have started to say "hi sweetie" or "I love you, sweetie" when you hug me.  It is one of my favorite things of all time [and I'm old].

Just so we won't forget, here are some of your current favorite interests:

Favorite color:  Turquoise

Favorite foods:  Goldfish, hamburgers, ice cream, fruit snacks  (Ahhhh!  Who invented fruit snacks and Goldfish?  They have defeated me.  I am doomed to be their minion forevermore.)

Favorite toys:  Cars, of course (especially rare Disney Pixar ones), and any car accessories that your dad and I can muster the strength to assemble.

Other faves:
country music, especially Florida Georgia Line (we listen and sing it so often that I hear it in my head constantly)
playing soccer
watching YouTube videos where people talk about cars
playing "try to get me" with us or your sister
cute girls (seriously!)
collared shirts
doing Airplanes in the yard with your dad

My little dude (age 3.5) and me

As I think about your favorite things, they haven't changed much since my birthday letter from last year, which is odd, because really so much else has changed.

Your ability to communicate more complex thoughts, feelings, and ideas with us brings so much joy.  Your sense of humor is one for the books.  Your sensitivity and love for your little sister is one of the best parts of my life.  That said, let's get it straight, little man, your emphatic resistance to us saying 'good job' and 'thank you' is getting old.  So is your determination to remove your socks and shoes every. single. time. we get in the car.  But you have also become more independent and confident, and that has been wonderful to see.

I look forward to knowing the boy and young man you are still to become.  As you grow, I'll probably slowly forget the hard parts of raising my first baby and toddler, which I suppose is for the best.  Then again, most wonderful accomplishments in life take a lot of work, so I am proud of the dedication and devotion I have put into raising you, despite-- or perhaps because of-- the effort it takes.  I just hope I especially remember the best parts of your babyhood, my sweet, sensitive, funny first-born.

I love you so so much.


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