Friday, October 3, 2014

The Importance of a Neighborhood Environment

Welcome to my "Finish the Sentence Friday Post."  I'm linking up with some of my favorite bloggers this week (Hosts: Kristi Campbell of Finding Ninee and Allison Carter of Go Dansker Mom).  The Topic:  Neighbors.


We moved into our current neighborhood exactly three years ago.  It was life-changing.  That is not an overstatement.

Before moving to our current home, we lived in our cool city condo.  It was a great place to live before we had a child.  My husband and I walked to restaurants and bars [a lot].  It was a short drive to my work, which was lovely.  My circle of friends-- all without kids-- lived nearby.  It was the perfect 20-something place.

Then we had our son.  Instantly, I discovered just how isolating a busy city apartment could be.  There were people all over the place, but suddenly, once home with my baby all day, I had never felt more alone.  What on earth was I supposed to do all day?  All my friends were at work.  My husband was at work.  As much as I loved our location, I knew no one nearby with little babies.  It no longer felt like the right neighborhood for our family.

Fast forward to today:  I now stay home with two little kids, and I am so grateful for our new neighborhood, primarily because of the mothers I have met here.  My mother or sister do not live nearby, so I have had to create my own little network of support here.  There is an immense relief in knowing that the friend down the street could come by for lunch when my husband is traveling and I'm feeling vulnerable, or another friend could meet up for an impromptu playdate when one of us justneedtogetoutofthehouse!

I will always have warm memories of our fun little place in the city.  In some ways, I am a total city girl; I occasionally miss being able to walk to the nearest cafe or the new clothing shop.  Some days, cruising around the 'burbs with my SUV just seems so dime-a-dozen.  However, I try to remember that most of the fun memories of our condo were formed during our pre-baby days, when we were newlyweds with only each other to care for.  In this chapter of my life, I'm enjoying building long lasting relationships with the other young families who live near us.

~Julia @ Frantic Mama
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