Have you ever had someone give you a compliment that doesn't make you feel very good at all? One that actually feels more like a criticism?
Here's one (along with its variants) I've heard:
I suppose people think it's okay to comment on someone's weight when they have a petite figure, but still... There are nicer ways to comment on someone's appearance than with a poorly hidden insult.
Other types of fauxpliments you may be familiar with:
You got a haircut! (Um, yes...and?)
You must have so much time on your hands! What do you do all day? (regarding SAHM)
You're already showing! (regarding early pregnancy) (Just what every woman in their 1st trimester wants to hear. Gee, thanks.)
You had a c-section? Was it, like, easy? (Whaaaaa?!)
Here's my point: let's be nice to each other. Let's resist making passive aggressive "compliments." Let's stop feeling like it's our business to talk about someone's weight, appearance, etc.
Better yet, remember the gem, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all?" Yeah, let's do that.
What about you? Have you received any of these "compliments" recently?
~Julia @ Frantic Mama
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