Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Pet Peeve Alert: Stop Saying "Sorry!"


This whole "Sorry!" thing is getting old, ladies. You do not need to apologize when you do nothing wrong.

You don't need to apologize to the person who wasn't looking and stepped on your foot. You don't need to apologize if you have wet hair at dinner. You don't need to apologize for someone not holding the door open for you. And for goodness sakes, you don't need to apologize when the other person is late!

Yes, you should apologize when you actually make a mistake (as we all do). Being super late, forgetting to call your mother on her birthday, killing bugs [wait, that's just me? Moving on then...]. Real mistakes that you actually caused? Sure, say you are sorry and mean it.

All the other stuff? I am so tired of hearing women apologizing all day long. It sends a message that shouldn't be sent. Along the lines of "I'm not worthy," and "I'm not important." Are you really not worthy of existing? Are you not as important as the dude in the elevator next to you? Of course you are! Stop apologizing for living your life!

P.S. Don't even THINK about apologizing for apologizing ;).

Own it!

~Julia @ Frantic Mama

6 comments:

  1. Amen, sister! The sorry trend has gone on way too long. My girls apologize all the time; my sons never do. Ugh!! Annoying. Being super late, forgetting to call your mother on her birthday, killing bugs. . . it's not just you. : )

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    1. Oh, it would be so frustrating to see that in my own kids. Glad I'm not alone in apologizing to the bugs I kill in my house!! :)

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  2. Love this!!!! Though I do end up apologizing when someone steps on my foot!! uh! guilty guilty! Wouldn't no more but I guess I expect the person who stepped to say "sorry" and most of them they just act busy??! This is just the most perfect short piece ever that goes far in its meaning. To add to the fun , I write this from top of a cardboard box. We are moving tomorrow, just to tell you how much I love to be here. Unapologetic, though my little ones are threatening to reopen boxes I must have packed a thousand times!

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    1. Thank you for loving it! And I love picturing you writing this on a cardboard box! Moving with children is hard, hard, hard. I wish I could be there to help you and whisk you away for a coffee date!

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  3. Agreed! I am definitely guilty of this. One trick I heard recently which I have been trying to use more is to just say "Thank You" instead. So rather than "sorry to keep you waiting", just say "thanks for waiting". I thought it was a simple but genius trick that can eliminate some of the apologizing AND make you seem more confident and courteous to others.

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    1. That is a fantastic concept. I would definitely appreciate it if someone thanked me for waiting. It's a more conscious way to handle things. Thanks for sharing!

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