Wait, a whole week has gone by since my last blog post, and now it's Tuesday...which means another Pet Peeves post! New readers might think I'm a bit of a curmudgeon, but I'm not. I promise. In fact, this weekly Peeve Post is my newly conceived chance to let it all hang out.
So here it goes: My 2nd Pet Peeve is when friends don't take the time to visit after you have a baby.
My kids are now 5 and almost 3 and yet-- and yet-- I can still remember any friend who came by our home to visit with me after having my son and daughter.
There is something about the exhaustion, elation, vulnerability-- all of it-- that makes new mothers REALLY need loyal friends when we are home with a new baby.
It is hard for me to forget those who never got around to visiting, or even calling or checking in, when they knew I was home solo with a baby. That postpartum period is one of those times in your life that can be friendship making or friendship breaking.
Is this just me? Is it because I don't have my family nearby that I so needed visitors after having a baby? Perhaps. Still, I can imagine many of us feel the same. It truly takes a village to care for little ones, and true friends will stick around to help each other out, even if it's not always 'convenient.'
We learn as we go in life, and maybe it takes having a child to really understand this one, but now, no matter how "busy" I am, I make the effort to visit with a mother and her baby (or invite them over in case she wants OUT of the house). It means so much to me, it must mean something to other moms out there, right?
Join me in my weekly vent! What about you? What's one of your peeves?
~Julia @ Frantic Mama
Check out last week's Pet Peeve here.